We live in a confusing, chaotic world. Every day, we’re bombarded with relentless input telling us who we should be, what we should like, how we should dress, etc. We’re told what’s “normal.” We’re told what’s “exceptional.” Some of us grow up being told we are nothing, and we internalize it. Others of us grow up being told we can be whatever we want to be, and when our 4’11” self tries to be the next Michael Jordan, we realize we might have some unrealistic expectations. Our parents, our friends, our cultures – each has a different idea of what we should be. And all this noise leaves a lot of us feeling like abject failures. Like we won’t ever succeed or fit in. Like we’d better just accept that that’s just how it is and move on, doing the best we can to get through each day. That acceptance stops our destinies in their tracks.
I watch so many people I care about living this “reality.” They either try to become whatever they’re told they should be, or they rebel and end up somewhere equally disastrous. Either way, they’re living a lie because they don’t know the truth of who they are. And I just have to say something about it. Because back in 2009, I got heartily sick and tired of all the noise, and I decided I was going to cut through it and get to the truth. And I did, and I grew so much over the following years, and I’m still growing. That’s how it works when you taste the truth – you’ll never, ever be able to get enough of it and will go after it for the rest of your life.
It came down to a single question. I turned the Lord’s own query from Matthew 16:15 back on him. “But you, who do YOU say I am?” And, y’all, I am telling you that this is THE way to find your true identity. He Who knew you before He formed you in your mother’s womb (see Jeremiah 1:5) WILL tell you. It won’t be an overnight process, and you’ll have to be willing to set down every single preconceived notion you have about God, about yourself, about EVERYTHING. But He will lead you gently; He will bring people to speak into your life; He will heal all the broken places, and then you will understand that “that’s just how it is” is not a phrase He ever, ever utters.
It’s an incredibly brave choice to ask this question, especially if you’ve had a rocky or nonexistent relationship with God. I don’t want to preach at you or try to convince you of anything because honestly, no one can do that except for Him. I just want you to know the option is there for you, and it is an absolutely fruitful one if you are willing to go into it wholeheartedly. If this post has piqued your curiosity in any way, I am more than happy to talk with you, pray with you, steer you toward resources that I’m aware of.
Today is a great day to never again have to believe that “that’s just how it is.”